Should you invite your ex to your wedding?

This is a sticky topic to some and to others is a no-brainer question... 
Should you invite your ex?


For a "yes" and the reasons:
  * You are friends
  * Having a children together.
  * Wants your ex to witness how happy you are.
  * If your ex also invited you at their wedding.


With a "no":
  * Do not invite them for revenge. 
  * They maybe cause of gossip or worst... a drama.
  * Even if you are friends, do not invite if your future husband/wife is uncomfortable.


Now, upon giving some pointers to ponder before you invite your ex, will you? or   a big no?

YOU are Important for US

Wedding is the special day for the bride and the groom. As a wedding guest, who wants to be remembered to be a blemish on that perfect day. As soon as invitation arrives into guest's mail proper etiquette begins.

Escort Cards

are used to help the guests find their assigned table, this it to avoid glitches that may arise on seating arrangements.


As the guest enter the reception, they will find the escort cards on a separate table. The card was marked by guest's name and table number assignment. It will direct guest to their respective seats where they can find their name printed on separate place card. 


If escort cards are unavailable, ask the ushers/usherette for assistance.


Please refrain from seating to other's table to avoid inconvenience with anybody.

It is FORMAL

You are invited, but not sure what to wear? Some invitations indicates decorum but if not, you should look carefully to the details like time, setting and theme for the wedding. You as guest should know the proper attire rules, or you will end up insulting the couple, embarrassing yourself, or drawing too much attention away from the newly weds.

General Principle:
* Don't dress to upstage the Bride and Groom
* Don't wear white dress. 
* Dress respectfully as if you are attending a  
   church service.
* Match your color pallet to the event.
* Men should always wear collared shirts and 
   shoes that cover the toes.
* Don't wear jeans.

Wedding Invites

When invitations arrived, it signifies that bride and groom wants you to be part of their special day, that they want you to witness their vows for forever. Treat it with great honor with simply following some wedding etiquette.

1. RSVP Promptly. ("Répondez s'il vous plaît", a french word means "please reply") Determine whether or not you can attend the ceremony and the reception. Wedding planning hinges on how many people should be expected, this will be use from the seating arrangements, ceremony, preparation of giveaways, up to the ordering of the food. It will be an inconvenience for the couple if you don't respond but you showed up. RSVP ON TIME.


2. Uninvited. Read and re-read. This is to make sure if you are allowed to bring a guest. Do not try to convince the couple to let you be with your date to escort you in their event. Nowadays, tickets were send off together with the invitations, this is to let the guest not to assume whether they can be with someone to attend. Remember some couple wants their special day to be intimate and only close friends and relatives are only invited.  


If you do not receive wedding invites, do not invite yourself. Wedding is an exclusive event, couples and their families may not include everyone. So do not take it personally.


3. Do not bring your children. Unless they are part of the entourage or specially mentioned in the invites, bringing them is inappropriate. 

 

Gifts

A wedding present is indeed required. Whether it's monetary gift or something purchased from registry, guests have a year round from the wedding date to see if the couple received it. Others choose to send gifts ahead of time. Either way is fine, if guest won't attend the wedding, it's a customary to send a gift.


Most brides register for gifts, with this the guests will know what the couple needs and things they don't have.


Absolutely, is it appropriate to give money. The guests should seek advise from relatives of the couple if they prefers to receive money.